When you talk to a girl, you are going to have to ask her questions,otherwise you would never be able to get to know her. Even though this may seem like a difficult prospect, asking a girl questions is really the easiest part of the conversation. When you ask her a question, she starts to talk, and she gives you information that you can build on,information that you can respond to.Because she is going to start to interact with you after your very first question, all that you have to do is; relax (easier said than done, I know), listen to what she says, and then respond.
Don't worry so much about where the conversation is going to go, but instead focus on where you are at. If you do, you will find that you won't get so nervous (since you will be listening to her rather than thinking of the next thing that you are going to say), and you will be able to converse much easier.
Listening Is the Key to Talking
Yes, this may seem like a contradiction, but in fact listening is the most important part of the conversation, and unfortunately, it is also the most overlooked (or under heard). Despite having an entire arsenal of questions, if you don't listen to what she says, you might as well not even have started talking to her.
Listening is so important because if all you are doing is firing off questions and not listening to what she is saying, then you are not really having a conversation at all (you are either talking at her, or talking to yourself, neither of which will get you very far). Another reason is that it's so crucial that you listen is that she will tell you what to talk to her about. In addition, you can't learn about her unless you listen to what she is telling you
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